The Silent Message In A Heartbreak!

You remember the time when you were a child and your heart broke because you did not get your favorite toy? Do you remember the time when your first crush was your teacher or your favorite celebrity but realized that it will never be anything more than that? Do you remember the time when your grade 4 crush did not pick you when it was "pick your partner" activity or when your heart truly broke for the first time when you liked someone? If you answered yes, then you will be content to know that all of us have experienced heartbreak sometime during our lifetime. This blog post is about the silent message that a heartbreak gives us, which we fail to recognize when experiencing volcano of emotions.

Just like you, I have experienced heartbreak sometime during my life and so have the people I know, but what did it teach me? Life goes on with or without that person. With this thought, let me talk about what message a heartbreak gave me.

I know many friends who have been cheated on, I know many friends who have cheated. I also know many friends who have given up or fell out of love for various reasons but the one common ground that all these scenarios have is "Heartbreak." Love is defined differently by every individual. One painful thing about love is that there is always a chance that person will either fall out of love with you or start looking for something better, people tend to always find other people's grass greener but do not realize it is green wherever it is watered. One thing that is constant when your heart breaks is "YOU." We often tend to lose ourselves, when we lose someone we genuinely love. An important message to always remember is that someone who is worthy of your love will never put you in a circumstances where you feel that you will have to ignore your dignity, self-worth. When people give up early in their relationship they fail to realize that true love is built and not just found, even your soulmates have flaws but you build with each other.

One message that a heartbreak gives you is about learning your self worth. When someone you love treats you like an option, help them by removing yourself. Yes, breakups hurt but imagine being with someone who does not respect you or appreciate you, losing someone like that is definitely a gain. Without respect, relationships do not last. We all are different individuals and if someone is not able to value the differences and values then they do not deserve to be in your life.

Every bad situation will give you something positive, even a clock that has stopped working will give you correct time twice during the 24 hours. You often have heard that you are asking for too much due to wanting to spend time with the significant person, but always know that it is not that you're asking too much, you are just asking the wrong person. The people who are truly meant to be in your life will always somehow find ways to be with you. You do not find your worth in a person, you find it within yourself and then find a partner who is will be truly worthy of you. What is meant for you, will never pass you. Do not ever build a home in someone else because when they leave, you will no longer know where to live.

Do not chase, do not beg someone to be with you and most importantly, do not LOSE yourself because of someone who left. Do not RUN back to who left you or broke you, you deserve better. Some people will only love you as long as you fit in their box, please do not be afraid to disappoint.

Find love that will not demand you to prove your worth. Find someone who will not be with you for as long as a Netflix trial period. We live in a generation where we end up in relationships that is similar to trying new shoes, for example, no matter how good someone is we tend to always look for something better. If you do not feel for someone then giving a straight answer is so much more better than what we call "GHOSTING." Ladies and Gentleman, if a person ghosts you then let that person stay as a ghost and ghosts are dead!!

One thing our generation needs to realize is that when you fall in love with someone, you have to do it through the good and bad. You can not claim to love someone when you can not love that person when times get rough. If you have to convince someone to be with you, then know that person has already left. Ladies, if another woman has your man's attention the best thing to do is let her have him. You deserve to be top priority and if he is not making you feel that then please make yourself a priority. Gentleman, if your significant other is not appreciating what you do for her than pick yourself. Life is too short to be with someone who does not see your worth.

One of the biggest lesson a heartbreak teaches you is that do not settle for half effort. You should not compete with anyone for your love. If you want to spend your life with someone you have to understand that there will be arguments, rough phases and good days as well. Just learn to forgive. Relations are so much more than an Instagram hashtag.

In conclusion, the silent message of a heartbreak is that what is meant for you will always be yours. If someone does not value you or love you then let them go. A solid union is between two people who genuinely want to be together. Always love yourself enough to wait for someone who loves you truly.

This is life through my rose colored glasses.

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