Is it my time yet?

"I am not where I want to be in life, I am feeling lost." I am sure you have heard this statement from someone or even you might have said this as well. This statement has the power to make anyone lose their confidence in themselves and their belief in the goals they might have set for themselves. This topic is really significant to today's generation in my belief, many of us have been determined to succeed but sometimes face failures. We always tend to question other people's success and our current situation. "Wow, this is so unfair I am working so hard and yet I am not where I want to be, but he/she is....." SOUNDS SO FAMILIAR RIGHT? I am guilty of saying this as well. I always wondered why some people have things differently than others do, and that is when I understood that I am not the only one who questions all this, there are numerous people that question the same thing and I want to explain from my perception the importance of time.

I believe there is a timeline for everything. The timeline to get your degree, to finish school, to get your career started, to buy a house, to get married, to start a family etc. These important milestones are reached on a different time for everyone. Recently I came across an article that was about "The perfect time to get married." I was a little taken back when I read this and started wondering how there are so many articles that has a "fixed time" of all these milestones and it kind of made me think that who actually determines these timelines? The pressure that this adds to our lives is actually quiet upsetting. Everyone has their own time of when they achieve important steps in life.

Something that needs to be clarified is that being single at the age of 30 does not mean you're unhappy or not complete. Being 22 and married does not mean you rushed or are immature. Graduating at the age of 28 does not mean you did not achieve anything. Graduating at the age 23 does not mean you're more intelligent. Starting your career or business at 30 does not mean you're a failure. I know people who are working but hate what they do. Rushing your time does not guarantee you are happy, usually good things take time and it is for the best. You can't force love, career, money, or relations it all happens on it's own pace.

People who are close to me would tell you that I am a firm believer in love. But it does not mean one needs to rush something and compromise because every person has their time on meeting their significant other who changes things, I have not come across anyone yet, this does not mean I am losing something in life but clearly I believe what happens, happens for the best. I think it is sad to know that society has a set amount of time a woman can be considered successful, for example if she is married by 25, be a mother by 29 etc etc. In the terms of men for example, it is disheartening to know that a man is considered successful only if he has house, car, or a career set by certain age. I mean I agree it is important to have all those specific materialistic things but is it not important to be happy where you are and enjoy those moments before they become a memory or worse a race against time?

However, I'll contradict my thoughts a little bit that setting goals is necessary but putting a time frame on it is wrong. I came across a quote sometime back and it had a very very strong message that I would like to share. "I know people who graduated but did not receive their salary job until they were 27. I know people who have graduated at the age of 25 and already have a salary job. I know people who have kids and are single, and I know people who are married and had to wait 8-10 years to be parents. I know people who are in relationship and in love with someone else and people who are in love but not with each other." This quote that I came across really made me think deep. The point of this quote is that everyone has their own time frame or clock. You might see your friends or relatives who are doing better than you or even behind you but after reading this quote and thinking peacefully I realized that people who are doing better or are behind you are not actually in a competition with you, they are in their own time frame, and they are ticking according to their clock. One thing to remember is to be patient, do not be disheartened because your time is coming as well, just have faith in your clock, you are not behind anyone or ahead of anyone.

Just last night I came across a video by Jay Shetty and I'll attach the video down below. It is so inspiring and the way he talks about importance of time. For example, the owner of KFC Colonel Sanders,he had numerous amount of failures before he achieved success in the age people would usually retire. The owner of Alibaba did not make it till he was 35. The point is that you should not feel rushed because of someone else's timeline. The purpose is to create meaningful and insightful life. Be content with yourself and have patience, your time is coming also. Don't rush anything as things unfold on their own timing. Make a difference in your life and make a difference in someone else's life.

Success is not money or materialistic things it is in the purpose of your life. Success is being happy within yourself. Be positive, laugh, love. You're building a life not a resume to present to some authority. Enjoy the little moments in life. Believe in yourself, in your hard work and in your timing. Things will unfold on it's own timing.

Life Through Perception.